Be supportive and remind him, that you’re there to date the whole person he is. There are still many ways to enjoy a healthy sex life at this age, and much fun to be had. Hopefully, your 21-year-old daughter is dating an older man because he is a good man that makes her happy. Just because one person is older than the other does not mean there is anything weird or predatory going on. It could just be that a woman fell in love with a man that is older than her, plain and simple. I have read through all the post here and I can relate.
I believe that age does not really matter. We compliment each other and have a true love for each other. I have the added pressure of my friends and family wondering if I will ever find someone as apparently time is running out for me. I think it’s time we women rejoice in the love we receive instead of being made to feel ashamed.
I am attracted to him both physically and mentally. He has pulled away though, he says he loves me but he just cant give up on his dream of having a family, I think maybe his family, or at least his dad, does not approve of me. The thing is, I have always wanted more kids, I just never found anyone I wanted to have them with until now. I never told this man that I wanted a family with him because I wasnt sure it was possible now and because I was scared at first that he would think I was nuts.
We had many differences, but it was a passionate relationship while it lasted . Personally speaking, I believe age is just a number. Why not try to hang out with him on a non-date first?
Articles and blog posts alternate between claiming age absolutely matters in a relationship and age absolutely doesn’t matter in a relationship. One thing is clear — nothing brings out more opinions than other people’s love lives. That being said, one major difficulty of having a large difference in age is making sure the morals, values, and life goals of both people are synced. Do you both respect each other’s careers? “Mothering” a partner, regardless of who is older or younger, can manifest into a power struggle later on. This attitude in a relationship usually contributes to codependency and controlling behaviors (not cute!).
I think if both parties are aware of what issues could arise from any and difference and if their is compatibility and desire for each other, what’s the harm? If it feels good and neither is committing adultery, why not see where the desires of Life takes you. If someone fills your heart with joy, what could be the harm. O am so glad to hear that relationships with a big age gap can work. I am 36 and madly in love with a 18 year old.
I really don’t think he’s cheating. He’s always wanting to be by myside. He stays with me and doesn’t hide his fone. I think to myself, “Oh brother, what could I possibly expect from a 26 year old whom has years to go before growing up? ” Yes, I’m heart broken, but I just need to get over it and move on. I think I found it easier to be alone or maybe just without him.
He knows what traits and values are important to him. He knows what kind of lifestyle he wants to enjoy. A man at this stage in his life, knows what https://www.thedatingpros.com/ he wants. The reality is, there is little you can actually do if you don’t like the fact that your 21-year-old daughter is dating an older man.
I tried to keep going, one step at a time, one day at a time. I still had my younger son to take care of. He lost dad and brother who were close and his mom stayed in bed 24/7 squalling. When she asked me to name some things that I enjoy, hobbies etc. that did not involve my xhusband or kids. I sat there shocked that I could only think of one thing, I love reading. What do I do next, what do I like?
I struggled with the age difference at first but he made me feel so loved and beautiful. The age difference had played a huge role in our constant break ups. He wants an older women for all the obvious reasons… were more mature than women his age, we’re set and know what we want. But he’s so insure and has to constantly be texting me. I can’t do this insecure shit anymore.
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The only thing I would consider before totally falling is issues like kids, things like that. Y’all need to chill and enjoy your young men. I am divorced 30 years now 62, Mr. Young and New is 25! Just getting to know this ‘mature’ construction worker who wants kids eventually-guess he can have them at 45 when I’m cremated.